Yeah, fearing disability and dependence seems pretty much it. And I do think this argument talks people into wanting to die. I have seen that happen in my family with my father, which is still a bit of a painful spot for me.
My step sister feels that fear very strongly bfor herself, said that she made arrangements to be killed rather than get any supportive care, which I'm not going to argue with her for herself, but she kept pushing and pushing that view at our father as his health was declining, while my full siblings and I were trying to get him to accept things like physical therapy after hospitalizations to recover more, and more in home care too, and then we'd kept finding fucking brochures from assisted suicide organizations in his bedroom. And when we confronted her, she was claiming that it was all about "respecting his wishes". Once I happened to sit in the metro with her, and she talked at me for ages how it would be "better" if he just died, and that she would want to die in his position, and she didn't even understand when I told her, well I wouldn't want to die in his position. After his death she even said it would have been better if he never got his pacemaker because it had just prolonged his old age, and I was aghast, because that was years earlier, before he even needed any care beyond housecleaning (which he just never did anyway) and he would never have had a chance to even meet his grandchildren without that pacemaker. I mean, shortly before his death he had got it turned off because it was just uselessly shocking him at that point of his heart failure, but it had done years of service by then.
And I just can't with those views. It was just so toxic to have pushed during what was such a hard time anyway. I still don't know if maybe he could have had a bit longer if he had been open to more support and rehabilitation earlier in his health decline, but at least he didn't outright commit suicide.
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My step sister feels that fear very strongly bfor herself, said that she made arrangements to be killed rather than get any supportive care, which I'm not going to argue with her for herself, but she kept pushing and pushing that view at our father as his health was declining, while my full siblings and I were trying to get him to accept things like physical therapy after hospitalizations to recover more, and more in home care too, and then we'd kept finding fucking brochures from assisted suicide organizations in his bedroom. And when we confronted her, she was claiming that it was all about "respecting his wishes". Once I happened to sit in the metro with her, and she talked at me for ages how it would be "better" if he just died, and that she would want to die in his position, and she didn't even understand when I told her, well I wouldn't want to die in his position. After his death she even said it would have been better if he never got his pacemaker because it had just prolonged his old age, and I was aghast, because that was years earlier, before he even needed any care beyond housecleaning (which he just never did anyway) and he would never have had a chance to even meet his grandchildren without that pacemaker. I mean, shortly before his death he had got it turned off because it was just uselessly shocking him at that point of his heart failure, but it had done years of service by then.
And I just can't with those views. It was just so toxic to have pushed during what was such a hard time anyway. I still don't know if maybe he could have had a bit longer if he had been open to more support and rehabilitation earlier in his health decline, but at least he didn't outright commit suicide.